Phases In Development II

 

     In growth, the most important characteristics are the things allowed into our mind, because these are like bricks that form our mindset. In the normal world, the sole proprietor of a child's mind should be their parents or guardians. They are supposed to do the planting during childhood and guide that the seeds planted are established in adolescence. Now one of the things even parents don't pay attention to or probably don't know is that a child does not just absorb words you speak to them intentionally, in fact, those are the words they find very difficult to absorb. A child absorbs more by visualizing (what they see), and comments you give about them.

      A child who is performing averagely in school, and because the parents want he/she to be the best in his/her class the parent out of love thinks the best way to get the child on track is by scolding. Now scolding when done in the right way is a good weapon to train but in this instance when words like "dullard" are being used to refer to the child then there is already a problem. Because as the child begins to grow he/she begins to get acquainted with those words and begin to accept them as his/her reality. So even when another source gives them a positive reinforcement they begin to have conflict; either to believe what is being said to them from home or otherwise and they start having self-identity conflicts.