Mindset

 

     Have you tried speaking with someone with a very plain intention and they just take it overboard? Or you have tried asking for help from someone and they just shut you out with the thought that you are trying to use them?. And you will just be wondering how exactly are they thinking! 

If you then take it a step further to say the same thing to someone else or ask someone else for the exact same help you are asking from previous persons, and this new person does not see anything wrong in what you are asking for, they might even go overboard and do more for you. 

That's it! same action can mean different thing to different people the same way, same words can mean different things to different people. 

Because the moment a person receives an impulse from the environment (in terms of words or actions) it goes straight into their mental component and their mental component gives interpretation based on what it has grown to known. So someone who had experiences of being used in their past life, and their mental capacities have built the knowledge of being used in them. Anytime they see someone who is reaching out to ask for their help, they can conclude that the person is only trying to use them because a MINDSET has been built overtime.

 So the end result of being through negative scenerios and experiences is that it builds wrong MINDSETS in you that limits the possibilities of things In the future. 

See you in the next episode...........

Mindset

Hi guys, welcome back to today's episode on Mindset, so good to have you around.

 I was in a conversation with a dear friend and we were discussing this particular mobile app that offers free services, he made the point that; he does not trust the mobile app because how exactly are they generating their gains? 

He also established that as time goes on they will start placing charges in the app bit by bit. And of course, he gave examples of several mobile apps that have done something similar in the past years and ended up charging more. Then he made a statement; "This is Nigeria". 

And just on that spot, I knew that was the perfect example I needed to explain this episode. 

Your mindset doesn't always grow on a literal basis 80% of time, they grow coincidentally. This mindset this friend of mine has towards free things In Nigeria didn't just grow because he has seen something like that played out the opposite alone, it grew because there have been many experiences of things not working in a country like Nigeria.

  What am I saying in essence, is that your struggle to get to the ATM to withdraw some cash will not only establish in you that withdrawing cash is difficult alone, it tends to establish in you that nothing is easy in this life, so you can start picturing a whole life from just that single specific experience. This in turn alters your perspective of seeing things. This is why the same action can mean different things to different people. 

See you in the next episode............

Mindset

 

Mindset grows, given time, circumstance, and different factors. Those things you know are products of what you grew up learning, formed from both the good, bad, right, wrong, and unruly. You might have grown to some morals and lifestyle you got engaged with based on exposure, your mindset has the following characteristics

Were formed during your earliest stage of development in life (your first 8-10years).

You didn't bring any from heaven but they were formed through your experiences and your exposures.

The tiniest thing as being deprived of something communicates deficiencies and forms certain mindsets.

Mindsets are not just formed from good experiences, they form from both the good, bad, favorable, positive, and negative experiences.

Major parts of the mindsets you grew up with were formed without your awareness, these explain how you know certain things you cannot trace their root.

You grew to become the template shown to you through various mindsets that have been built in you.

Most times, the mindset you grew up with is not always appropriate.

Mindset can be changed if you give it time and your intentionality.

Now what is the wrong mindset one could have possibly grown to that looks right but are wrong, I will highlight that in my next post, see you soon...

Mindset

 

As a child develops and gets different opinions and ideologies into them like I explained last week, there is also the part where a child learns certain things through excesses that might be communicated through their environment. For example, at the earliest stage when the child is dependent on his/her parent or a caregiver for anything, one major habit that gets established in the child during this phase is that; the child learns either to trust or not. At this phase the child is totally dependent on the parents or caregiver for major needs, if the parties involved display their duties accurately well then the child builds trust In their framework and the deficiency here will be that, if the parties involved were lagging in playing out their duties then the child learn not to trust. The bad here is that, the child is not learning not to trust his/her parents alone, the child struggle with trusting everyone around them.

You might then be wondering, why does everyone have to bare the consequence of someone's mistake, this is why it is a mindset. At that stage of development, the only being the child recognizes around them are those who attend to their basic needs, and if you remember from this beginning of this discussion, I mentioned that a child's soul is like a blank board when given birth to, so every of their exposure forms imprint that makes the mind up, so every good and bad experience a child is exposed to while developing forms every of their mindsets and this is why you have believes and mindsets you don't know how or where you got them from.

To be continued........

Mindset

 

You are tuned in the direction of what you have consistently been seeing and hearing. That thing you know so much, that belief system you have so much held on to, that morals that have become your standard of living, that template you have placed as a yardstick to which you measure your life didn't just jump on you like magic, neither did you bring them from heaven; they are things you have consistently imitated and have consciously and unconsciously become part of you and this mostly happened/happens at the earliest phase of your life.

            

The brain of an infant is formed through a systematic process; you'd be thinking why so much English, is not just that a child grows? The truth is it is not just that a child grows; as a child grows physically they also develop intellectually, so many events and processes outplay in the process of development. The very first stage of growth for a child is the period where the child recognizes something by putting it in their mouth, this is why if you give something to a baby they take it straight to their mouth because at that stage, the only channel they use to relate with their environment is their mouth. Then there comes a time when their sights get activated, this is the phase when they can differentiate a solid from a liquid but can't differentiate a liquid from another liquid, e.g they cannot differentiate a bottle of hypo from a bottle of water. Moving on, there comes a stage when their sense of hearing is activated. I'm bringing this analogy to drive the point that; at each stage of development, a child gets different ideologies, opinions, and ideas into them from their environment. At the stage of development, the model of the child as at then is their environment (the environment consists of both the natural habitat and the people living in it)

To be continued......................

Mindset

 

    Imagine an empty plot of land that has just been purchased by a person, the sole aim of the one who purchased the land is going to be to make resource out of it by either reselling it at an higher price, use the land for farming or erect a building on it. If you have to erect a building,  then they start from the foundation and continue till the building is done. Before the building is completed, it took effort, time, consistency and application of resources. In summary it took sacrifice. Now imagine your mind(at birth) as the empty plot of land that has been purchased.

          If you can recollect from my post on learning, I explained learning as a relative permanent change that happens based on your experience, so it is such that what you engage your senses with becomes a permanent reality in you, meaning learning has occur. Learning is the gateway to your Mindsets. Remember as a baby you were born innocent without knowledge, and as you begin to emerge you learn alot of things that make you up. So your mindset is created based on the things you have learned over time. Remember you learn things through experiences and exposures, so we can as well agree that your mindset is created on things you have been consistently exposed to overtime. 

To be continued.............

            

Mindset

 

Have you ever stopped to imagine why you do what you do?

Why are there so many lined-up thought on how to live one's life?

Who told you to eat 3 times a day?

Who told the person who told you?

How did you know that thing?

      These are a few intentional questions to ask yourself. You have become so acquitted with a particular pattern of doing things that you cannot stand in an environment things are being done differently, most times you don't do it intentionally but they just come spontaneously. And you have concluded that is just who you are. It has become part of you. But do you know; that these things are learned over time?

Do you know these things developed through series and consistency?

Do you know your ideologies are based on things you have been exposed to over time of beholding the same thing?

Do you know, learning these things has become a set that makes your mind up?

Do you know those things that look so hard can be unlearned the way they have been learned?

Now let me take you on a journey of how you get to know what you know, and I will show you how you can begin to unlearn the things that have become strongholds within you.

A good way to start the year right?

To be continued..............